I find it interesting that while I was building an income for myself before my body went through this huge recalibration phase, I barely listened to people’s unsolicited advice other than maybe a few pointers from former mentors.
Everything else was: take the information → apply → course correct → repeat the process.
If you truly needed help, maybe reach out to your mentor but even then, the learning was always in the doing. It’s why I miss my doer and go-go-go at times.
The same can be said in this journey—why? This shit is mine to own.
It’s why it’s funny when people try to give me unsolicited advice. Yes I know it’s worked for you, yet your strategy doesn’t align with mine…
Why Unsolicited Advice is Not Helping: The Pattern Recognition
There’s a consistent thread through both phases of my business journey: the answers come from within my experience, not from other people’s blueprints.
Before my vestibular challenges was present, I built income by trusting my instincts and course-correcting based on actual results. Now, building sustainable income while healing requires the same foundational approach—trusting what works for MY system, not yours.
I understand the advice-givers mean well, but it’s likely they don’t understand the specific terrain I’m navigating. They don’t know what it feels like when screen time triggers vestibular symptoms, or how 10K steps a day shifted to 2,000 overnight, or why certain client interactions now require recovery time.
And dare I say, their unsolicited advice comes from fear, realizing their suggestions come from their bodies, their nervous systems, their capacity levels.
I operate by different rules now.
The Gift of Ownership
Time and time again, what I’m realizing is that this forced slowdown hasn’t changed my fundamental approach to learning, rather likely clarified it.
Before: Take information → Apply → Course correct → Repeat
Now: Take information → Filter through vestibular reality → Apply what’s aligned → Course correct → Repeat
The more I’m growing capacity within myself to do small tasks like writing this blog or going out for a walk on the sidewalk remains the same.
My criteria for what passes through the filter has evolved.
This health, vestibular challenge has become a masterclass in itself in distinguishing between necessary and unnecessary stress. I now understand the difference between:
Healthy stress that supports my system:
- Gentle movement that aids vestibular recovery
- Exercise that builds strength without triggering symptoms
- Creative challenges that energize rather than deplete
Unnecessary stress that drains capacity:
- Being part of the action just because others expect it
- Listening to someone’s complaining fest just because I wanted to be a “good person”
- Social obligations that serve others’ comfort but cost my energy
Honoring my capacity means saying yes to what builds me up and no to what tears me down, regardless of how that appears to others.
The Frustration and the Freedom
Do I miss the doer and go-go-go version sometimes? Absolutely. But that version also ignored my subtle body signals that eventually became impossible to ignore.
This version—the one building sustainable income through healing—requires deeper listening, more precise decision-making, and stronger boundaries around whose advice actually applies to my reality.
So when the unsolicited advice gets flown your way, it becomes easier to deflect when you’re clear that your journey is fundamentally YOURS to own.
My vestibular challenges aren’t a problem for you to solve with your strategies. They’re territory for me to navigate with approaches that honor my specific reality.
When someone offers their blueprint for success, I can appreciate their intention while recognizing that their path was carved through different terrain entirely. What worked for their body, their timeline, their circumstances might be completely irrelevant to mine.
And there’s something deeply freeing about that recognition.
This journey is mine to own. The strategies I develop here won’t be found in anyone else’s playbook because they’re being written in real-time, through lived experience, by someone who understands the exact variables at play.
And honestly? That’s exactly how it should be.